It is difficult to go through a breakup. That is something we all agreed on. But what you might not know is that you can get your ex back. If you follow certain rules.

Here are the initial five step plan for you to follow on order tio get your ex back.

Step 1: Resist any take me back immediately after the break up. This will drive a wedge between you and your loved one. Your ex will be going thru pain. Give your ex some space.

Step 2: This is the difficult part but well worth it. While you guys are on a break from each other sit down and figure out what went wrong and what was YOUR part in it. Hard job, but you will identify the problem, as if there weren’t a problems you guys would have been together. When you find the problem, or problems, fix it.

Step 3: Now, after you have wisened up with what was the problem and how to fix it, you must make the first contact to your ex to open that valuable door of communication. Make your first contact after the break up light, something like a text (sms), an email or a short phone call to ask how they are.  Make it short but genuine. Your ex need to know that you still care.

Step 4: If the first contact worked, you will start spending more time together. Be gentle on your approach, don’t go all guns blazing! Just enjoy the company and do what you guys used to do. This will bring back the memories. At the same time let the work you did on yourself regarding reason fpr the break up slowly seep in, ironing out issues and obstacles. Your ex will notice this, and will slowly work on themselves as well.

Step 5: Consistence. Keep working on youself, recognising any issues that have been a deciding problem in the past. As the relationship gets stronger again discuss these problems and solutions with your ex so that you are both aware of what to look out for.

With the right communication and commitment, the relationship can be even stronger, but beware; do the same mistakes again and you can kiss your loved one goodbye for good.